My First Arizona Post

 Hi, Everyone!! Shawn and I flew down to Arizona this afternoon, and then checked into our accommodations; then had to find food and groceries and tell the persons resposible for my children that "all is well." 
It's 8:30pm already, and I am SPENT...but I am conscious of the fact that I said I'd blog much more frequently, so I thought I'd make a list of what I am offering from this blog as a starting point to my "FIRST DAY IN ARIZONA." 

• 1st - I will be trying to write every other day but do not know how the treatments will effect me and I will most likely miss more days than I'd want. 

• 2nd - I am trying to figure out how to post pics using this terrible wifi. Praise God it's so warm, I'll have to find a hip, outdoor coffee place ASAP.

• 3rd - I know my writing is a bit different now (you should see my handwriting!). I went through a period of great hopelessness and I feel like my tone reflects this. I would love to find "that wacky writer" again too (and with God's help, I will) 

• 4th - I'm going to post very little about our kids. They are well taken care of and I want them to stay safe while I'm not there. It was gut-wrenching to leave them for even a day. Gut wrenching.

• 5th - Please do not make plans to come to Denver if you'd like to see me personally. If I am accepted for treatment tomorrow, there is a good chance that I won't be home for 4 months or more. I will post this happy detail tomorrow. My boys WILL see me. I would worry, so I post that  😉 

• 6th - I had a very full day today (for ME). It is even really hard to type info right now. I could definitely not share this news a number of times a day. I love you. I'd love to be sitting in a room and laughing and remembering with you/or getting to know you authentically...but I will not be communicating too much except for giving info through this blog. Please don't be hurt or offended. ALL of my energy needs to go into my loving my family and staying alive.

More in a few days (or maybe tomorrow).

Jesus, I trust in You

"Uphill Battle"

 Happy Day After Thanksgiving!! 

We had a nice Thanksgiving with my brother's family, my sister-in-law's sister's family (they live here in Colorado) and my parents (who live down the street). 

It was pretty loud and crazy with NINE kids, so I didn't make it out too long. Shawn and everyone else did a great job of decorating for the evening. We think the boys watched their third Home Alone and they played about 5 hours of hide-and-go-seek. Naturally occurring social distancing.

In my last post, I mentioned that Shawn and I had been researching more alternative cancer therapies. It  is a long story and took a few weeks as we plowed through various doctors, cancer centers and locations. A quick amount of background...There are a number of places that offer a blend of alternative and standard chemotherapies. The most famous of these places are in Germany (where Farrah Fawcet got treatment). There are also some less famous (but successful) centers in Mexico. Only three (we think it's 3) states in the US allow these treatments - Nevada and Arizona were the 2 states where we focused our search since they are relatively close or convenient for us. I do want to mention that most of the work at these centers is not covered by insurance, which makes them pretty expensive. 

After Zoom interviews and some pretty crazy Divine Intervention, We decided to go with a cancer center in Scottsdale, Arizona: Envita 

One of the largest "signs" we received is that my best friend's sister (Sr Meg, a SOLT sister) had heard of the clinic because her best friend (Fr Mark, a SOLT Priest) is friends with one of the clinic's head oncologist/research doctors. Fr. Mark called this doctor and the doctor called us (we had already sent my paperwork) to review my case. 

The doctor said, "You definitely have an uphill battle,  but if we get right on your case, I think we can help." It was both discouraging (but we were starting to get that feeling ourselves) and hopeful. I brought up that "God will do what He wants" and the Doctor immediately said that "I find that people who can trust in God do better and even totally heal." Well, as readers from the beginning will know, the theme of this blog is basically "Jesus I trust in you." Even if I don't always totally feel it, I will push forward and believe.

Practically speaking, what does this all mean? For now, it means that Shawn and I will be flying down to Scottsdale on Nov 30 (yes, on Monday) and we will meet with the doctors on Dec 1. The next day, I will have a number of blood draws and some big testing. I will begin some immunotherapy treatments the next day. It also means I will be updating the blog nearly everyday so that people here in Denver as well as family and friends far away will know what is happening. My sister-in-law will spend the week here with our boys (see picture above). I am so grateful for her (and my brother). 

After this first week, we're not sure what will happen. Our patient advocate said not to make long term plans but they do offer daily care and I will live in Scottsdale for as long as treatment takes. I will keep you updated. 

Again, I hope you had a great Thanksgiving. While I am most thankful for my family (especially Shawn) I'm also thankful that it looks like there is a covid vaccine coming in quickly and I just can't wait for this stupid pandemic to be over.

Talk soon

Jesus, I trust in you.

A pretty boring update :)

 I have been getting a good number of texts and messages from so many wonderful people. That pretty much lets me know that a month is too long for an update on my cancer journey. (FYI, the phrase "cancer journey' strikes me as corny and vastly off-base for what it is...but ce la vie).

So, what is the update? 

Thank God it's pretty boring - or at least generally uneventful. 

First, I am currently on round 8 of the second line of my chemotherapy. I have had one scan and the next is planned for after the holidays. We might schedule it earlier, but I think my oncologist doesn't expect dramatically new results. She says it looks like the cancer is "holding steady" at this point- not better - not worse. I'm just happy to see 2021 in relatively good health. 

So, not a lot is new here. Shawn and I are looking into more alternative therapies to use along with the repurposed drugs I continue to take. I have dialed back on these drugs a bit so I will most likely be ramping up the repurposed drugs as well as looking into "new" things. 

Cancer is a complicated, expensive thing. 

As always, I am relying on prayers...the amazing, uncountable amount of prayers that have been promised. We cry every time someone says, "we're praying." Along with being an embarrassment (poop and conversation-wise), this cancer has been incredibly humbling as we learn to rely on others. 

We have been blessed by my brother and his family who are using their remote learning and work to come and live near us for the month of November. 

I think my next post will be all pictures. I need to take more as I can't find any new pictures to post. 

The kids are all well and all three are still in face-to-face school. It's looking like this might change, but it's been nice for them to have activity during the day.

We are still not sure what we'll be doing for Thanksgiving. 

We definitely don't know what the future holds. We are still trusting in Jesus and Mary and the prayers of friends and family. 

Even as it's boring, I will try to post more for faraway friends. 

Stay safe. 

God is Good

 God is Good. 

I am not going to apologize for the long gaps between posts, even though it's honestly just avoidance on my part. 

Obviously, a lot has been happening with my finishing radiation, restarting chemo and having a Pet scan (last Wednesday). I've also had a lot of visitors which has been exciting and fun. 

But, where do I stand with the cancer? It was a "mixed result" scan. Some places showed the cancer slowing/going but there were some new places where cancer had grown. It was a strange few days as we tried to navigate what that means. Generally, we all think the chemo is working and I will continue on this chemo for at least 4 more treatments (and then a scan). I am generally tired but trying to stay active and eat as much as possible every day. Your prayers and thoughts are very much appreciated. 

With all this being said, it's a little vague where I am. I have seen all my doctors and they are cautiously hopeful. 

I am OK. I am not afraid or freaking out. I'm just working at being alive everyday. But I believe I was made for a life after this...and I believe God is good. 

So we keep trucking. 

And family keeps visiting. We love it!! 

last-minute update

     It's been a while and we've been busy. I finished another 10 rounds of radiation (but on my right leg) on Monday. Simple radiation facts: you have to have it on consecutive days, It only takes around 5 minutes a session, the radiation machine itself is very high-tech and streamlined, for some reason that no one can explain (because it happens to no one apparently) radiation makes me not want to either eat or drink for the final week of treatment - side effects are cumulative - and I am slowly climbing out of a scary fight with severe dehydration. 

    Tomorrow morning, I have another round of chemo. I'm a little nervous about how all of the side effects are going to bash into each other in my system.

I also am craving prayers that I can make it to our youngest son's Confirmation on Saturday. It will be the  final Sacrament for the kids (that we are responsible for). 

Otherwise, things are going well. The boys are back in school face-to-face, five days a week. I have no opinion on masks or anything since I'm pretty much stuck in the house. I did read a few books, which made me feel accomplished. 

Getting a little tired. 

Thanks for prayers and love tomorrow. 

Our besties came back to visit over Labor Day. It was glorious! 

The Dads took the boys to Red Rocks

A fuzzy picture with my fuzzy hair

Jesus, I trust in You

"Fear is a liar"

This week has been crazy and a little bit scary based on the news that Chadwick Boseman (the actor who portrayed the Black Panther) died after a secret 4 year battle with colon cancer. For some reason, it made the reality of the fight more tangible for (especially) my boys who loved his character. 

But everything is fine for me right now. I am in the middle of ten rounds of radiation on my right leg and it seems to be going well without too much difficulty. Radiation itself takes about 10 minutes, so it's actually the hassle of driving all the way to the office for such a short thing - EVERY DAY - that's the biggest struggle. Especially now that school has started and all of our drivers are busy running all over the city. 

Because school has started, we're back to listening to our "theology class" on the way to school with the boys. On the first day, we listened to a repeat that we'd missed and it was all on the topic of FEAR. It was so beautiful to Shawn and I that he said I should add it to the blog. So...here it goes. 

 Catholic Sprouts

I'm still believing, still trusting, still working to stay here. But keeping my eyes on heaven as well. 

Good Days

 I met with my oncologist, Dr. NP on Thursday and she is very optimistic about this second line of chemo. She has many patients who remain on it for quite a while. When we were speaking, it brought me so much peace and also I pictured Jesus standing behind her because - ultimately - God will decide what happens. 

I am walking with the cane at this point but I think my legs are strong enough that I can walk without it. I was excited to attend our oldest's back to school Mass and picnic and I could walk the stairs to our downstairs to help put the boys to bed. It has been a weekend of big steps so far. 

I did freak myself out at how skinny I've gotten. I didn't realize until I was able to get myself in front of a mirror. 

It made me think of those old TV shows where they finally revealed the girl with anorexia in a mirror.

Lastly, My brother and his wife and her mom all came to stay for about 6 days. It was amazing. 

Chemo #3 update after 1 treatment

 I realize it's been a while since I updated. Mainly, we've been working through the side effects of the new chemo - diarrhea and possible rash. The hits just keep on coming! 

My walking has gotten better as my legs get stronger and I've graduated to a cane from the walker (praise God). I will most likely begin radiation on my right leg soon because if any of the cancer in my joints grows, it will make the surgery void (which would be bad). 

My last IV chemo went pretty well. I was very fatigued but felt ok over all. 

A few of Shawn's colleagues from Houston flew up to have meetings and visit and brought frozen meals to us! What a blessing Shawn's co-workers are! We got a little teary at their generosity. 

Overall, it has been a good two weeks. 

We are gearing up for all three boys to attend "in-person" school over the next two weeks, but I will only believe it when I see it. 

Shawn insisted on the Tebow shirt. Really? 

Changes tomorrow

 Just a very quick post to say that my hip is healing well and Im walking with a cane sometimes, which is nice and better than a walker.

After meeting will all of my doctors, we've mutually decided to change the chemo I am taking. Tomorrow, I will have a 3-hour infusion and I will await any side effects. These will be totally new chemo drugs for me, so I'm off on another adventure. The docs all agreed that I need a stronger dose to get things going.

In a heart/soul sphere, I've been trying to hear the voice of God more than the TV I seem stuck in front of. I am encouraged that everyone agreed on the new chemo and I just trust that everything will work out as it should.

Never A dull MOMENT

Hip surgery went well. Honestly, it went great and was fast and the (different than regular) hospital was nice and the nurses were all in their 30's, so it was calm and enjoyable actually. My parent stayed with the boys, which was great and so we didn't need to worry. I was discharged without any issues on Thursday (just one night). After my last hospital stay, this was nothin' 

Here's me after my surgery! I can eat whatever I want (A Mary Beth Diet Coke cheers!)

Of course, nothing can just run smoothly around here ;) Friday before bed, I began running a temp of 102 degrees (on our little home thermometer - honestly, it never registered that high again). "Over 101" was the direction to return to the hospital. We couldn't get the temp to go down, so we started debating which hospital to go to....the one where Id had surgery an hour away or my "home away from home" Hospital right down the street. 

Eventually, we settled for the emergency room down the street. I wasn't even sure what was wrong at this point, so I wanted to "go where I know. "

Well, after a few hours in the emergency room - where I got a CT scan, a sonogram of my leg and every blood test you can think of- they still couldn't figure out where the infection causing my temp spike was coming from. 

Seriously, this is cancer, my friends. All this weird, unexplained stuff. 

What the ER doctor did decide is that I had to at least stay 24 hours while they grew cultures of any infections in my blood. 

So, I was off to the 8th floor. 

You know the one - I spent 2 months there in March and April? 

Because God is good, my GI specialist was on call and came to see me right away. The nurses recognized me one after the other ("Bridgette! You're back!") and I didn't have a blockage or weird pains...just a fever and explainable leg pain 

Oh, and Shawn could STAY! As long as he wanted. Which turned out to be until about midnight because he really did need some sleep.  But he was able to come back around 7am on Saturday morning and we were able to chat and call doctors to see what everything meant. 

Eventually, Dr N (my GI specialist ) pulled a few strings and got me out on Sunday. There was nothing anyone was doing in the hospital. Fr. Nathan did stop by and say Mass and we were able to chat and discuss what it all means. Because I might need to change my chemo plan again...but we're not sure. I am just so happy to be home and to hang out with my boys and Shawn. plenty of time for meetings about cancer, but I'll keep you posted. 

Jesus, I trust in You.

Hip Surgery Wed

I feel like I've been putting off blogging which makes me sad. The truth is that we've been really busy (cancer busy - not "fun trip" busy). First, I finished up with my left hip radiation. The pain has definitely lessened and we're hoping that the radiation will help kill that cancer.

Wed, July 22, was Shawn and my 20th wedding anniversary. We celebrated with dinner with the boys and by praying the Rosary with me in my pajamas. I had plans of Hawaii and/or Cabo and swimming and dancing. Actually, we were thinking we were going to throw a big party for our family and friends...but my LEAST favorite "C's" (Cancer and Covid) cancelled all of that.

 I also did see the Orthopedic surgeon and he said it was fairly urgent that I have a rod (they say pin, but it's a rod) put into my right femur to keep the bone from fracturing.

Quite frankly, I'm fairly stuck in my house right now because my doctors have said not to use my leg too much and not without a walker (not the cool modern commercial walker, but the old lady silver kind that needs tennis balls).

Praise God that my youngest brother, Tim, came to visit over the weekend:

And Sunday afternoon, my parents officially moved part-time to Denver (3 months on - 3 months off) and another of my brothers, Mike,  helped them drive out and move in to the beautiful tiny house they bought (not a "tiny" tiny house- the actual size of the house). It's been a fairly full house since Sunday and it's so good to have other people here to buffer the emotions and decisions. And Mike is a trainer with a lot of knowledge, so he was able to give a lot of advice and he could also just hang out with Shawn.

Going forward, I have surgery at 7:30am MST on Wed 7/29. The plan is for me to spend one night in the hospital. And - little miracle - Shawn can stay and visit all day. It's pretty great timing. I'm scared it will hurt but we've been praying that it happens quickly if it's God's will. Covid makes scheduling iffy everywhere.

The one beautiful moment we had (I'm going to try and get the video my brother took) was the serious, solemn blessing Fr Nathan gave us for our 20th anniversary. You can only get these blessings on significant anniversaries. It was beautiful.

General Update

It's been about 17 days since I posted...there are a lot of small things happening. First, my MRI showed that my right hip has significant cancer spread and is in danger of fracturing. I see the Orthopedic surgeon on Thursday and he'll most likely recommend that I have a pin put into my hip. Until then, I am using a walker to keep my hip safe.

My 10 sessions of radiation on the left hip are 1/2 way done. There is not much to the radiation in general. So far, I still have pain in the hip, so I hope that the next four sessions take the pain away.  We'll see.

Everything seems to be going well with the new chemo. So far so good, I guess.

We were blessed to have a special guest of sorts in our house...a lovely man here has a giant statue of Mary that was sent to him from St. Pope John Paul II. Karl (the owner) brings the statue to people who need prayer. We prayed the Rosary everyday as a family. It was a blessed week.

As we travel far into the summer and everyone wonders what the fall will bring, we are trusting that God holds the future. We've been enjoying time as a family and short visits from friends we love. My parents will be here soon and Shawn and I have a big anniversary coming.

Also, I've been holding on the the words of Jesus to St. M Faustina
"...the greater the misery of a soul; the greater it's right to my mercy..." 1182
I'm hoping for all of that mercy right now.

2nd chemo drug begins

It has been a special week...ending with our plans to head to the cabin tonight.

Tuesday, I was blessed to be prayed over virtually by a powerful prayer ministry - the Intercessors of the Holy Trinity. I was told that there were 1300 people who viewed the prayer service. Click here if you are interested in the service. Shawn and I sat at home and watched while the leaders called on the Holy Spirit to heal me. Lots of tears and trust.

The next day, I began the second new chemo drug that is a part of my new protocol - and we are trusting that this will be Jesus' vehicle to heal my body. I have to say that my leg is in a great deal of pain and I try to pray against it. We're hoping that this pain comes from the chemo fighting the cancer (this is what happened in the first twelve rounds and the pain went away as the cancer shrank). We have hope because my friend who is also on this protocol had her extreme pain disappear after a few weeks.

I hope and pray that you all have an awesome 4th of July. We'll be at the cabin enjoying some much needed screen-free family time. I hope you all have a great weekend as well.